Your friend is spending time with others but not making time for you—and that understandably stings. Let’s break this down to help you figure out what’s really going on and what you might want to do next.
🧠 First, Ask Yourself:
1. Has anything changed recently?
Were you two closer before?
Did something happen (even something small) that might have shifted the dynamic?
2. Is this a pattern or a phase?
Has this happened before, or is it a recent behavior?
Sometimes people go through social phases, especially if they’re exploring new circles or commitments.
3. Do they know how you feel?
They may not be doing this intentionally. It’s possible they’re unaware that you’re feeling left out.
🗣️ What You Can Do
✅ Option 1: Talk to Them Directly
This is the most honest approach. It doesn’t have to be confrontational. You might say something like:
“Hey, I’ve noticed we haven’t hung out in a while, but you’ve been spending time with others. I miss our time together—did something change?”
Keep it open-ended. You’re asking, not accusing.
✅ Option 2: Invite Them Out
Instead of waiting for them to make a move, take initiative:
“I’d love to catch up—want to grab coffee or hang out this weekend?”
This gives them a chance to respond and re-engage.
✅ Option 3: Observe and Adjust
If they:
Repeatedly ignore invites,
Make no effort to reciprocate,
Or seem to avoid you entirely,
…then that’s data. At that point, it might be worth redirecting your energy toward people who value your time.
Also Read : SRD Status Check
💬 Reality Check
Friendships ebb and flow. Sometimes people grow apart—not always from conflict, but from life changes, interests, or just social drift. That doesn’t make your feelings invalid, but it does mean you have choices in how you respond:
You can express how you feel,
You can focus on other relationships,
Or you can decide how much effort you want to keep putting in.
🧭 Final Thought
It’s okay to want to feel included. And it’s okay to feel hurt if you’re not. But your time and energy are valuable—invest it where it’s returned.
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